Solutions for a Thriving Sex Life: Vaginal Dryness and Low Libido During Perimenopause

Perimenopause, the years leading up to menopause, can sneak up on you and throw your sex life for a loop. You might start noticing some changes down there, like dryness, irritation, or discomfort during sex. And let’s be real, it’s not exactly a topic that comes up often in casual conversation, leaving many of us feeling alone and unsure of what to do.

I can’t tell you how many women have confided in me about their concerns over their dwindling sex drive and how it’s impacting their relationships. They love their partners to pieces and are happy in their marriages, but that urge to rip each other’s clothes off just isn’t there like it used to be. When things do get steamy, it can be harder to get turned on, and even when you do, orgasms might feel like a pale imitation of their former glory. If you’re nodding along right now, trust me, you’re not the only one, and there are plenty of solutions to help you get your groove back.

First things first, let’s get one thing straight: your pleasure and comfort should never take a backseat. You deserve to feel sexy, satisfied, and fulfilled, no matter where you are in life. And the good news is, there are tons of tools and techniques out there to help you do just that. When you make your sexual well-being a priority and embrace pleasure, it can have an amazing ripple effect on every part of your life – your relationships, family, career, and how you feel about yourself.

So, where do you even begin? Allow me to introduce you to some game-changers that are backed by science.

If you’re looking to give your vaginal health a boost, Joylux is definitely worth checking out. This innovative device uses LED light therapy, sonic vibration, and therapeutic warmth to rejuvenate vaginal tissue, increase natural lubrication, enhance sexual pleasure, and give your confidence a major boost. Plus, a study in the Journal of Cosmetic and Laser Therapy found that low-level light therapy significantly improved vaginal health in postmenopausal women by increasing collagen production and promoting tissue regeneration. Pretty cool, right?

So how does shining light where the sun doesn’t shine, work, exactly? By encouraging the growth of new capillaries, Joylux boosts blood flow, sending a surge of nourishing nutrients to tissues that need it most. The soothing warmth of the device relaxes you while stimulating circulation, reaching a comfy 42°C (108°F) during the 12-minute session. Joylux also kickstarts collagen production, helping to restore elasticity and natural lubrication to your vaginal walls.

Most women start noticing changes within just 3 weeks of consistent use, with the full “wow” effect hitting around the 6-8 week mark. To keep those good vibes going, maintenance sessions 1-2 times a week are all you need.

Now, let’s talk options. Joylux comes in two flavors: the standard Vfit Gold and the souped-up Joylux Plus. The Plus model takes things to the next level with: A full 12-minute session 32% more power for faster results A variety of vibration patterns to customize your comfort While both models deliver the goods, the Plus is like the first-class ticket to vaginal rejuvenation. Best part? When you buy through a medical professional or use our special affiliate code, you’ll get the Joylux Plus with the programming upgrade included – a $99 value, on the house! Just get in touch with us for the code and the scoop on the free perks. So, are you ready to shine a light on your intimate health? With Joylux, you can rediscover the joy of comfort, confidence, and satisfaction in the bedroom and beyond. Your vagina deserves this – trust us. Order Joylux devices here.

For those of you who want to tone up your pelvic floor (and trust me, you do), Perifit is a smart little device that connects to an app, turning pelvic floor exercises into a game.

It syncs up with an app on your phone, transforming those sometimes tedious kegels into interactive challenges that’ll have you eager to crush your high score. But Perifit isn’t just about fun and games – it’s a serious tool for boosting your pelvic health. A strong, toned pelvic floor is like a secret superpower for your lady bits.

It can:

Improve bladder control (helpful when jumping on trampolines with your kids!)

Reduce the risk of pelvic organ prolapse

Rev up your sexual function by increasing blood flow and sensitivity in all the right places

And the best part? You’ll actually look forward to your pelvic floor sessions–and do them. No more setting reminders or forcing yourself to do those exercises – with Perifit, you’ll be jumping at the chance to level up your strength and have a blast doing it. It’s time to say goodbye to the days of lackluster kegels and hello to a revolutionary approach to pelvic health. Perifit isn’t just a device – it’s a game-changer. It’s your personal trainer, your cheerleader, and your secret weapon all rolled into one adorably addictive little package.The more you play, the stronger your pelvic floor gets, which can lead to better bladder control, increased sexual sensations, and improved intimate wellness overall. And if you need more convincing, a 2018 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that pelvic floor muscle training significantly improved sexual function in women with pelvic floor disorders.

When it comes to toys, not all are created equal. These little bundles of joy can take our solo or partnered play to a whole new level, but did you know that not all toys are created equal?   A 2006 study by the Danish Environmental Protection Agency found that many sex toys contained harmful chemicals like phthalates, which can mess with your hormones and cause irritation. No, thank you.  Many conventional sex toys contain sneaky chemicals like BPA, phthalates, TPE, fake silicone, and other toxins that can leach into our delicate vaginal tissue. And trust me, that’s not the kind of “tingling sensation” we’re looking for!

These chemicals can mimic estrogen in our bodies, throwing our endocrine system out of whack and potentially leading to some seriously uncool reproductive health issues.

But don’t worry, you don’t have to kiss your beloved buzzing besties goodbye! There are plenty of body-safe options out there that prioritize your pleasure AND your health.  Brands like Lelo, Fun Factory, and Dame offer a tantalizing array of toys made from medical-grade silicone, ensuring safety and sustainability without sacrificing any of the toe-curling goodness.

So, how can you tell if a toy is safe? Look for materials like:

Medical-grade silicone

Borosilicate Glass

Stainless steel

These non-porous materials are easy to clean and won’t hang onto any icky bacteria or toxins that could crash your pleasure party. Order here.

If you’re looking for a luxurious way to pamper your lady bits, Julva, a vulvar cream containing DHEA, could be your new best friend.  We’ll spend hundreds of dollars on creams and serums for our face and body, but when it comes to our most intimate area, we tend to neglect it. That’s where Julva comes in – it’s like a daily dose of nourishment for your delicate vulvar skin and vaginal canal.  This luxurious cream is packed with DHEA, a hormone precursor that our bodies naturally convert into estrogen and testosterone right where we need it most.

Julva helps by:

Boosting moisture levels

Improving skin resilience

Enhancing sensitivity

Less dryness and irritation

More comfort during sex and daily life

Increased sensation and orgasmic potential

Julva is all-natural, hormone-free, and backed by scientific research. It’s like giving your vulva a superfood smoothie, but without the kale-in-your-teeth part (joking). It can help restore moisture, improve skin texture, enhance sensation, and increase intimate comfort. A 2018 pilot study in the Journal of Drugs in Dermatology found that daily application of a DHEA-containing cream significantly improved vaginal dryness, irritation, and discomfort in postmenopausal women. Order Julva  here

And if you really want to bring out the big guns, AnteAGE VRS, a cutting-edge serum containing growth factors derived from stem cells, can help revitalize aging vaginal tissue at the cellular level. This powerhouse product can rejuvenate vaginal tissue, increase lubrication, enhance sexual sensation, and improve overall vaginal health. A 2019 study in the Journal of Clinical Medicine found that stem cell-derived growth factors significantly improved vaginal health in postmenopausal women, including increased epithelial thickness, reduced pH, and enhanced lubrication. Please contact clientcare@briewieselman.com to order AnteAGE VRS.

If dryness, low sensation,  and discomfort are putting a damper on your sex life, allow me to introduce: low-dose vaginal estrogen. This little miracle worker comes in the form of a transdermal gel, creams, or suppositories , and it’s like a targeted moisture bomb for your V. By delivering a dose of estriol and estradiol right where you need it most, vaginal estrogen can:

Restore thickness and elasticity to vaginal walls

Boost natural lubrication (goodbye, sandpaper sensation!)

Reduce irritation and discomfort

Make sex feel amazing again (hallelujah!)

And the best part? If you look back at my reel from last week, you’ll see that the most current data clearly demonstrates that estrogen replacement reduces your risk of 5 types of cancers, including breast cancer, and also increases longevity in women.

Now, I know what you’re thinking – “But isn’t estrogen therapy risky?” Well, when it comes to vaginal estrogen, the doses are really low.  And when managed by a trained practitioner who knows how to optimize your hormone receptors and make sure you’re metabolizing hormones correctly, estrogen can help keep your brain, your bones, your cardiovascular system, and your metabolism on lock– for life. So, if you’re battling with menopausal symptoms don’t suffer in silence. Let’s talk about if vaginal estrogen is right for you. Your vagina (and your sex life) will thank you.  These topical hormones work by restoring vaginal tissue thickness and elasticity, and a 2019 meta-analysis in JAMA Internal Medicine concluded that vaginal estrogen therapy effectively treated vaginal symptoms in postmenopausal women, with minimal systemic absorption.

This is just one aspect of the work I do with women in perimenopause. In my Reverse-Age Method 6-month group program, I utilize a proprietary science-backed 3-step system that I call Balance (hormones), Clear (gut health and cellular detoxification), and Empower (mitochondrial optimization and muscle as medicine). This lab-based program includes personalized nutrition and personal training programs, as well as bespoke custom protocols for each of the three systems, tailored to the specific needs of each woman. In addition to addressing weight gain, skin aging, energy/mood/brain issues, and hormone symptoms like flashes, sweats, and crazy periods, libido and sexual wellness are never put on the back burner in this program!

If you’re interested in learning more about the Reverse-Age Method or my Hormone Balance Quick Start program (a 3-month, lower-investment option), I encourage you to book a discovery call with me. Together, we can explore how these programs can help you reclaim your vitality, confidence, and passion for life.

At the end of the day, this journey is all about reconnecting with your body, your pleasure, and your inherent sexual power. It’s about having open, honest conversations about vaginal well-being and refusing to settle for anything less than the mind-blowing intimacy you deserve.

So go ahead and explore these transformative tools, knowing that they’re grounded in scientific research and designed with your unique needs in mind. Play around and discover what works best for your body and desires. And remember, you’re not alone in this. By prioritizing your pleasure and intimate well-being, you can tap into a whole new level of confidence, energy, and fulfillment in every aspect of your life.